Prepared Beyond Singleness

I feel that it's selfish of me to mope around some of the times I do, especially when all the other times I'm encouraged by God and my church to continue on in faith. I can't admit that this is where I thought I would be after graduation, but the truth be told, I really had no clue where I would be after graduation. I know where I want to end up and what I want to be doing, it's the getting there that's frustrating me. However, before I get there, I have goals and right now they aren't finished or even close to starting.

I like to think of myself as a "good" person, I would at least. Every time I get to work at 8a.m. though, I'm somehow convinced in my mind through a period of thoughtful conversations that I don't amount to anything. I don't technically have my degree due to CLM (Christian Life Ministry) requirements and a study in either Costa Rica or Colombia. When the time came for one of those two trips, I felt God pushing me towards the opportunity to go to China for 6 weeks. He provided, I went, and I realized at that point that God did want me there; however, nowadays, I'm not even sure if I'll get to go back.

I'm a dishwasher... I look around and see my friend from college as a youth pastor with a wife and a child on the way. I see another friend who graduated and is a teacher and worker at his church. I see yet another friend working for the college and on his way to getting married. I look at my life and can't help but compare myself to them wondering what I did wrong to get such a position in life. I help out with the youth department and even preach at my church on random occasions. Such events are sweet but too far between for my desire to lead a class or group of Christian people. More events will be less likely to occur once we do find a youth pastor to head the class.

My job I get paid to do requires me to dump trash, sweep floors, scrub floors, scrub toilets, vacuum floors, bake bread and potatoes, and wash dishes. Give me a load of laundry then I'll be a house keeper. All in the meanwhile, I'm yearning for something more. I'm yearning to be a full-time dad some day where I can hold my little girl or little boy and let them know they mean the world to me. I want to be the #1 Dad where my kid will draw pictures at school of things we've done together, one of which, praying with daddy before going to bed. I also want to be the hero to a good godly Christian woman. I want to fulfill her needs and be the example of Christ's love for the church in her life. I already know the man I want to be in the relationship, I've been preparing for it since I got saved in high school. Since as long as I can remember, my goal has been to get married and have children.

As I hope and pray for my future wife and children, I have to come to terms that I don't have them right now and there is a reason why God has withheld them from my life. It isn't that I'm not searching either; on the contrary, I'm looking everywhere leaving no stone unturned; however, I'm also praying and placing my trust that God will provide them when the time comes. I've written notes for my wife, even vows that I want to tell her on my wedding day- I've been preparing myself for her and I've been waiting too.

That last quality is most important to me.

In this day and age, it's hard to see how anyone is waiting on their future spouse. Instead, they give the blessing that God had made for them to give to anyone that comes into their life. I understand that they may feel at the time that the person they've met has convinced them they'll be together forever. Who can foresee themselves breaking up before ever getting into a relationship? I know I would have never pursued one if I saw the future outcome as such.

It's important that she does wait and that she prays too. Maybe some people need encouragement... maybe along the lines of, 'hey, someone else is actually doing this in the real world today, not just in the past.' Every morning and every night I pray for her, not knowing who she is, where she is but when she comes along, I can honestly say that a day didn't go by when I didn't think of my future wife. I've waited for her... not even just withholding sex from another person, but even rejecting sexual immorality out of my life altogether. Yes, those details are personal; however, whatever you think that coincides with- I don't do it and I don't do it specifically for my wife.

As the final outlining idea indicates, I not only prepare myself for my wife just for her but for the glorifying of God through the process. I want my family to pray together, serve God together, and even lead others to Christ together. I want the love of my family to portray Jesus to the world. I don't want to be the dad that forces all the rules on my children without them understanding that I do have a reason. I want them to understand and make their own godly choices. I want them to choose to serve God with all their heart, mind, and soul.

Before this time comes in my life, I will have to see friend after friend get engaged. I enjoy hearing the great news that they bare and the joys they'll soon have. Deep down, I long for the day I can stress out about saving up for a diamond, hoping and praying she'll love it. I long for the day I get to plan out Christmas for the whole family, I get to plan out something amazing for an anniversary, or I get to hold my child's hand as they take their first steps.

I read articles online too. I have read that some people are still waiting and about to hit the age of 29, and another the age of 34. I'm 22, still a ways off, but as I know, time moves fast. God tells us to be patient for the perfecting of our faith. That word perfecting better relates to the word 'maturing.' Sometimes, God calls us to be patient so that we may mature and understand Him better. If we can come to terms with waiting 20 years for our future spouse and family, then God be praised. As of right now, I'm impatient and I'm dreading how long God may want me to wait.

I don't want to be a dishwasher forever. For one reason, the numbers just don't add up to me to take up a lifelong voyage on that path. As of right now, I CAN'T take on all of the financial aspects with the job I have. In order to get an apartment, pay for student loans, pay for my truck, insurance, health insurance, and etc., I would live in poverty- which I'm technically in that pay range anyways. If I continued in Springfield the way I was going, I wouldn't have been able to support myself to the point of trying to figure out what to do for food. As I re-evaluate the numbers, I would be struggling so much right now. I thank God that I can now save up in this time-period and just focus on my truck and school payments.

Eventually, I do want to move out, but that requires a higher paying job which I don't have the degree to get. Don't get me wrong, I loved college, but it seems to be the worst financial mistake of my life right now. The degree I "don't" have means nothing to the secular world and there isn't a job force desperately seeking out the Intercultural Studies Major. As of right now, I need to come to terms with the fact that I couldn't support a wife, making it alright that I don't have one. I want to make sure I at least have that detail in order.

I know you may be waiting too. Maybe just as impatient or even more so then me. I understand it's hard to come to terms with the idea that God will provide when exactly He means to do it. I understand that it may be difficult to have hope or faith when there aren't even Christians your age around your area and all the supposed Christians are just in name only.

Pray.

Don't just half-heartedly wish things would come true, but believe and trust that God will provide. If you don't trust Him, don't even begin to talk. Maybe sometimes, in all of your prayers, you need to just shut-up. Maybe you need to stop and listen, to hear what He has to say. And don't give up. Don't throw yourself away. At the end of it all, if I can say that I held onto my values and didn't resort to desperation or sin, God is glorified.

What if I become an 80 year old virgin? Contrary to what this world would say, I would think that's alright. At least you didn't have to suffer a physical relationship ending in a sort of divorce without all of the legal work. Never regret the decision to trust and rely on God. In the end, you can say, I did it all for you.

Life Seemed Perfect; Then it Hurt

It's been forever since I've added anything to this. If you've stumbled across this, know that nothing happens by accident. God always has a plan for us that we can never really comprehend. Sometimes the path is tough and it hurts. Sometimes great things happen, though. Sometimes you are on top of the world and everything seems perfect only to find that everything that could go wrong, did, and it happened in less then 24 hours.

Let me be vague in stating that I found a girl who seemed perfect for God's will in my life, we had wonderful times, then we broke up. There's no reason to go into details of what all occurred, that information is private and really insignificant to this post. What I can tell you is that I thought I knew God's perfect plan for me. It would take quite a bit of hard work and faith, and by quite a bit I mean an amount that it seemed almost improbable and impossible. But our God is the God of the impossible, right?

It didn't work out. My thoughts were to go home and clear my head then go back to school, start over with a new job, and then get involved in ministry. I then remembered that I thought the same thing when I started my job back in March, after I went a month and a half without a job. It was going well. Then as the summer progressed, it started interfering with my church attendance. I became bogged down and really didn't notice that my relationship with God was lacking. Let me tell you, you can pray EVERY SINGLE DAY, you can read your Bible EVERY SINGLE DAY, you can have good intentions to be a part of ministry and do things for God... but you can still lose focus of God. It doesn't seem to make sense, though. You could think that, yeah. But for whatever reason, reading the Bible became a routine, praying seemed to be the same thing night after night, and... well... ministry never got started or done.

As the thought process occurred, I had to come to terms with the pain I felt. I walked to my truck at 1 in the morning and yelled out to God in anger, "If you don't want me to leave right now, then stop me!" God didn't stop me. I got in my truck. Earlier on that night, I couldn't concentrate on work due to emotions and my performance was lacking. I failed at my job and had to leave. From that point on, there was no turning back... what with the 800 bucks I had to make each month to make ends meet. The job was gone and I just had to clear my head, nothing else mattered.

I drove through possibly the worst storm that night/morning. I could barely see the car in front of me and had to go 50 in a 65 mph zone. But the whole time, I just kept moving. I made the decision to leave and it got difficult but I couldn't turn back. I just had to keep my eyes on the lines of the lanes to both my left and right, that's all I could do to keep from wrecking my vehicle. But at the same time, as I was enduring the storm, I had a peace that God would get me home safely. The whole time, I sang to David Crowder and just praised God because I knew He knew what He was going to do with me. I got home and felt at peace that this is where God wanted me to reside.

The next morning, I doubted everything because I feared being alone. I feared about not having a girlfriend. I took my eyes off God again and focused on the pain. I kept blaming myself and beating myself up. I was too overbearing, I wasn't trusting enough, I didn't have enough patience, etc. etc. etc. I placed my hope in her being the plan that God constructed. I placed all my chips and money on her. That was why I stayed in Springfield, that was why I endured the long hours of work, the bills, the plan. I endured the plan because she was going to be the final outcome... this was God's plan for me. Just endure it all... that's all I had to do. Meanwhile, my relationship with God was lacking. I forgot about God... how dumb of me.

What is God's plan now? I don't know, but I'm more at peace here in my hometown. I've gotten closer to God and closer to the things I needed to work on. I'm not perfect and I'm not as mature in Christ, but He'll continue to do His work in me and not give up on me. As of right now, I have a clean slate. I get to do ministry here in my hometown! Lord knows I'm not going to lack in that area again. I'm going to get a job but only if that job allows me to have the days off I need to do ministry. I'm placing God first. I'm going to continue with Distance-Education and try to get my masters. I shouldn't worry about a girlfriend or wife... God will bring her when the timing is right. I'm not going to waiver on the qualities I want in her. I'm praying for her every night. It seems nearly impossible to find her right now, so it's only logical to just not even think about it.

You know my situation now. I'd really appreciate your prayers as I continue this path of my life. There are no regrets but only praise in how God can still care about such a worm as I. I'm going to come out of this a better man- smarter and more mature in Christ. I hope this could help you get through things if you're struggling. Lord knows it wouldn't be by accident you're reading this.

In Christ,

Dustin

Study of Job

Job is the oldest book of the Bible and quite possibly the most remarkable in that Job speaks profound truth in man's position to God. He even goes to state facts about an upcoming savior, foreshadowing Jesus Christ's incarnation as man to take on the brutal punishment on that cross for our sakes. I've caught the smell of this enticing meal some time ago and even preached on it-- the fact that Satan had a blatant disregard for respecting God and God seeking to make Job Satan's aim.

Two very excellent initial words help in understanding more about this passage and the work of God vs. the work of Satan. Sum and Suk. The idea of Sum is the idea of setting one's heart after something. God asked Satan if he set his heart against Job, if he sought to attack him directly. God throws Job in the cross-fire. Now how Satan responds helps to identify how much he truly didn't understand about God and a man after God's heart in righteousness.

Satan says that God has put a hedge about him or Suk. What this implies is that God made it to where Job could not sin. Satan has some sort of concept that the only reason Job follows God is because God has protected him from sinning. However, Satan realizes after the ordeal that his philosophy was wrong! Very wrong!

This is a dangerous concept to consider because we can think to ourselves that we may be faithful enough in our walk with God to withstand Satan's very heart against us, his desire to destroy us and bring us to our knees. Satan was still figuring out the human being at this time, but I'm certain that throughout the time that he has been on this earth seeking whom he may devour, he has figured us out... for the most part.

Satan knows he doesn't have to attack me with drugs, alcohol, or even porn right now. It doesn't matter to him, but if he knows that he can get me through my little gods, causing me to be dormant in Christ, he has won. Am I as faithful as Job to withstand such an attack against me? I don't know; however, the true Christian would seek to withstand everything through faith in the Lord.

Maybe you are getting the point now. My whole foundation of all my faith, following, and works in Christ are based upon Proverbs 3:5-6. Once you can grasp this concept, along with the greatest commandment (I'll let you try to figure that one out), you'll come to understand how much better your walk with Christ can become.

I'll end with this. There is a place in Indiana called Turkey Run National Park. There they have trails and canoeing. On the maps they have drawn out all the trails with the difficulty next to them. The least difficulty is a pretty cool trail and pretty awe-inspiring. However, there are more difficult trails that require ladders and climbing along the side of the walls of the gorge. These trails are difficult but yet they are far more beautiful then the easier ones. I went on a trail in China, much harder then the ones in Turkey Run, at Tiger Leaping Gorge. It was the hardest trail I have ever seen and it took two days to complete. We stayed the night at a neat hotel along the cliff of the gorge. The windows revealed the view of Dragon Snow Mountain. That trail was the most beautiful thing I had ever been on. It was far more difficult, but that much far more beautiful. Do you want to take that easy route through life, or do you want to follow the call for the most beautiful experience ever? God lets you choose.

God's Provision

Take into consideration that sitting in my checking account right now is literally 9 cents. Also take into account the very fact that the cafeteria is charging students who are still here for their meals. Take into account the fact that I haven't gotten paid in over a month and a half. Take into account that I've been scrounging up pennies, receiving blessings from friends, and most of all relying on God to take care of me. Right now I'm experiencing what it is like to live without luxuries and coming to the point of realizing that much of the stuff I thought I needed I don't.

This picture represents my dinner tonight. It cost 1 dollar but if you know something about not having money, not having 1 dollar even means not being able to purchase something that is indeed 1 dollar. Nothing-- what I have, yet God still provides. Can I tell you that for some odd, unexplainable reason I felt that I needed to leave the school and travel to work an hour early. I thought to myself, I'll just get there and get a drink (which is free) and chill before work.

I walk in, so hungry, and hang my coat and glasses up. One of the guys is sitting at the table and asks me how I'm doing. We chat for a little and he found out I was an hour early. He asked me if I came in to eat and I said no, I don't have any money. He reached into his wallet and pulled out a dollar and said, here, you can use this. I was blown away. I was so thankful and received a dinner for the night all at the provision of this guy who was just sitting in there. After I walked out to get my food, I saw him walk out and he left the building. If I had waited, I wouldn't have been able to eat before work.

I know that at anytime my parents can and will provide for me. They have and still do; however, I wanted to rely on God and see what He'd do. Not only did He get me out of debt with that gracious person about a week ago, but He has provided me with meals all throughout this week. I have not gone hungry once.

I implore you, you can't have no faith in God and expect to receive something. There is the illustration of the two farmers during the drought. They both pray for rain yet only one of them prepares the field for planting. Then it rains. Tell me, which farmer had faith that God would make it rain? Even more, tell me, which Christian has faith that God will provide? The one who is upset because God hasn't, or the one that states He will and prepares to receive it.

So many times we put God in a box with human limitations. Don't you know that in the Old Testament the woman was told to collect pots to pour oil in? She need only have faith. The Bible states that as soon as she filled the last one, it stopped pouring. Now tell me, if after this event, what would you think??? Man! I should have gotten more pots! She maybe got a few from neighbors, but as much faith as she could have put into it, she could have that much more.

You get what you put into your relationship with God. If you treat Him like garbage, a magical genie, or a mean father; you will fail to see Him for what He truly is. If He is a priority to you, not an option; He will be the best priority you have ever set forth in your life. No one likes just being an option in life. No one likes just being used for whatever reasons. If we truly care and love someone, we will MAKE them a priority and that goes for our relationship with God. We will MAKE time to talk to Him, listen to Him, and walk with Him. We can't just expect it to happen. We should pursue God to our fullest. Have faith in Him. Otherwise we are just sitting back with our other gods and when they fail us we come back to Him because He was faithful to us from the start. What kind of relationship is that??? It's a hurtful relationship that means nothing and has nothing in it. It causes emotional damage, stress, and sadness. It makes the worth of someone feel close to nothing. Don't you think this is how we make our God feel sometimes?

When He asked us to love Him with all our hearts, mind, and soul, He was asking for total commitment and faith that He will do what's best for us and love Him no matter what we may perceive. In the long run, it's all for us. And we should be all about Him. We need to spend less time lifting ourselves up and lift Him up so He can lift us up to where we can lift Him up even more. It continues on and on and on. So now I lift Him up to you.

You can find whatever belief you want based upon perceptions of disappointment, in-content, and lack of faith. When it comes right down to it, He has already made the provision for all of us if only we'd believe on Him. I beg you, have faith in God, He WILL provide. He WILL be there when the time is right. It may not be when you plan it or the way you'd see it. I was never expecting money in my mail-box nor a plate full of food tonight; however, I knew that my God provides. And He can provide for you too. Don't be separate from God anymore. Let Him be your ultimate provision.

The Virtuous Woman

I'm not a perfect person... I never claimed to be; however, I try to follow Christ to the best of my ability. I don't have one friend around here who knows me beyond what only they can perceive, as of right now. I don't have a friend that can truly speak on my accord and I intend on keeping everything to myself. There isn't one person on this campus that can properly assess my character. People that I know to be friends are indeed friends, but they haven't searched my heart and have no right to say they know my heart.

My heart's intention is to follow Christ 100%. Through thick and thin I will follow Him and His will. I'm now content, once again, with being a single minister for the cause of Christ. My contentment is found in Christ alone and not in man. I've been trying to seek hope from man when it should have been from God. If I ever were to give up my plans to be a single minister, the qualifications for my future wife would be quite a bit. You may ask me why I demand so much but I believe God wants the best for all of us. I believe that I should settle for only the best because that is who exactly I would need to be a part of my life in this call that I have. I recently came across this...

The story of the martyrdom of Peter and his wife is found
in the pages of The History of the Church, written by Eusebius,
a bishop in the Holy Land during the first decades of the 300s.
In it he quotes from a much earlier source, Miscellanies (Book
VII), written by Clement of Alexandria (circa A.D. 150–215).

This work describes how Peter’s wife suffered martyrdom just
before him:
We are told that when blessed Peter saw his
wife led away to death, he was glad that her
call had come and that she was returning
home, and spoke to her in the most encouraging
and comforting way, addressing her by
name:“My dear, remember the Lord.” Such was
the marriage of the blessed, and their consummate
feeling towards their dearest.

St. Peter's wife died on a cross, crucified for her beliefs. Any girl here reading this, you want a Godly guy? This is your goal. Be so faithful and trusting to the Lord that you would take crucifixion for His name's sake. Glorify your God sooo much that your future husband would be in awe of your faith. This is the kind of wife I want. A selfless, humble, woman of Christ searching His heart daily. Unfortunately, in this world today, we don't see this much anymore... and it's a shame.

I will be the first to admit when I'm wrong and have sinned and fallen short. I will cherish my future wife as a treasure above no other. I will never hit her or make her feel less then what she is-- a glorious created woman in Christ. I would be HAPPY to wash the dishes, fold the laundry, cook, clean, etc. for my wife. She will be my blessing and love through Christ. I'll never feed her with lies and always walk beside her to lift her up. I will expect her to be more then just a "Pastor's Wife" but a working woman in Christ. I would LOVE to sacrifice my time to take care of our children. I would be content for her to never have to wear make-up, never have to dress-up, and never have to over act who she really is-- herself... a woman seeking God every single day.

A woman who beams the gloriousness of Christ from the inside can only project a love that I can find appealing. It may not matter if she feels she may be too ugly, too fat, too dumb, etc. As long as she's that kind of faithful servant, I would give anything and everything I had to find her.

As of right now, I'm a single minister following my Lord's heart. I'm a nobody, trying to tell someone about Somebody who can change their life.

System of a PRAISE!

I can't help but spread this and I just want this person to know that I thank them soo much. This person did something ridiculously out of the norm and provided something that they may not have known how much it affected me.

I've been struggling with finances quite a bit lately. It's no mystery that I was out of a job for around a month. As long as I kept track of things, I could get by with my parents sending me money now and again. I know it's difficult for them and I don't like asking for money at all. It isn't a sense of pride at all but a sense of humility in that I don't think I should ask someone for some help when I don't deserve it. Just recently my bank accounts started to have problems. With my Bank of America account, a gas purchase that I did one month ago FINALLY went through. This put me below what I had in my account and I accrued a 35 dollar fine. So my account there sat at -44.79 or something like that. My Regions account had a fraudulent charge from an online company and I got it canceled only to find out I couldn't get a refund. My account there sat at -11.00 for one day. If I didn't find a way to get something over that amount in there, I would accrue another 33.00 dollar fine.

Now I have my truck payment coming up soon and I will only get around 17 hours this week plus tip sharing. That would average out to be enough for my truck payment but not enough to do anything more with it. Next month I have a Sallie Mae student loan payment due and I didn't think I'd get all my financial stuff sorted out in time for that payment. Not only that, but when we had our missions conference, God laid it on my heart to promise 10 bucks every week. I signed the card and turned it in at that time with no hope of a job but personally knowing that if our God is as big as we say He is; as faithful, then He'll provide.

Over Alumni Days a guy named Jeremy sat across the table from me and we started talking. He started talking about how I needed to see a movie and then handed me 10 bucks. I found it more profitable to instead use it as my Faith Promise (I know, but I wanted to stay committed to God's goal for me). This next week, I had no clue how I was going to put that amount in the offering. A couple of nights ago I laid in my bed after I called the company to cancel my subscription to whatever was filled out with my info. That inner voice that always taunted me began talking about the situation I was in, offering all the facts and problems that were mounting up. I then just audibly spoke up and said, "Shut up! Just shut up! God will provide! I have faith!" That thing shut up and I fell right to sleep.

The next morning I woke up and went to my mailbox and got some assignments I turned in. One of which was a Missions Conference project. I got an "A" on it and the professor wrote that he'd like to keep it (I also designed a shirt to go with it). I was pretty thrilled about that. After my first class I went back to my box to check to see if my Book of Mormon or Boy Meets Girl came in. I found a paper with the list of graduation requirements and went to my second class. Graduation is soooo close and it's frightening yet awesome all at once. Before chapel I went to my box again (Yeah, I check it all the time if I'm expecting something). Someone put an envelop in my box and I took it out and it simply just had my name on it.

I went to chapel and opened the envelope... let's just say that someone graciously decided to follow the will of God and put quite a few 20's in it. I said to myself, "You're kidding me, right?" I looked in it again... the same amount... no card or anything that would let me know who it was from. I clinched my teeth together and then I started silently crying right there in that auditorium. I walked out and went to the bathroom and started balling my head off and praising God. All throughout our songs, I couldn't concentrate on singing them at all... I just stood there with tears streaming down my face.

The debt from my Regions account was paid before the fine went through. The Bank of America debt was paid off. And I had enough left over to just keep in my account except for 10-- my Faith Promise Missions. That inner voice hasn't said anything since. Even while writing this I still gather tears.

Today, I woke up with strep throat. I needed some medicine bad, so after I saw the nurse I went and got some. That person gave me enough to cover the medication too and a bottle of orange juice. I still have enough for gas to get to church on Sunday.

I recall that little card that someone gave me with my now life verses on them-- Proverbs 3:5-6. They said they simply prayed for me that day. Little did they know that I was struggling with my faith in God at that time period. I don't know if this person knew what I was going through... but there was no way they'd possibly know it would be enough to cover medication and gas and my Faith Promise Missions. Whoever these people are, they follow the guiding of the Spirit when it may seem unreasonable at times. What they will find though, is that God knows what He's doing.

I wrote this to give praise and glorify God, I wrote this to thank whoever did this, and I wrote this to encourage you... "Trust in the Lord with all your heart, lean not on your own understanding, in all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your paths." Thank you, and God bless.

The Neglectfulness of a Man and the Fall of the Woman

Genesis 3:1- "Now the serpent was more subtil than any beast of the field which the LORD God had made. And he said unto the woman, Yea, hath God said, Ye shall not eat of every tree of the garden?"

2- "And the woman said unto the serpent, We may eat of the fruit of the trees of the garden:"

3- "But of the fruit of the tree which [is] in the midst of the garden, God hath said, Ye shall not eat of it, neither shall ye touch it, lest ye die."

4- "And the serpent said unto the woman, Ye shall not surely die:"

5- "For God doth know that in the day ye eat thereof, then your eyes shall be opened, and ye shall be as gods, knowing good and evil."

6- "And when the woman saw that the tree [was] good for food, and that it [was] pleasant to the eyes, and a tree to be desired to make [one] wise, she took of the fruit thereof, and did eat, and gave also unto her husband with her; and he did eat.

When anyone approaches this passage for maybe the first few times, they will see the first initial sin of disobedience. Disobedience was key in the decision Eve and Adam made; however, there arrives a bigger picture and more to the story. The sins we can find just in this portion refer to deception, lying, pride, lust of the eyes, and rebellion against God's word.

I would like to focus on one very key important aspect that not too many people have realized. Take a look back at verse 6 and see if you can figure out what I'm talking about in relation to the title of this blog. It is apparent that Adam was "with" her during the process of Satan's misleading. However, a disgusting portrayal without any holding back to details needs to be explained here. I hope that you can take my explicit language and use it to figure out what the caliber of the situation is that is occurring in this passage.

Satan shows up to mislead (evidentially) and destroy the personal relationship between God and His most cherished creations. Satan has been at it for some time; trying to put himself above God and destroy everything He desires and love. What is about to occur in this scene is grotesque to the sight of God. Note that we can only serve one of two masters and that is either Satan, or God who created and loves us. When we serve Satan it is the biggest slap in the face to God and an act equivalent to that of adultery. God describes this idea in a metaphor of the Children of Israel becoming a whore to other nations and gods.

What Satan intended on doing was to spiritually rape what God had between Adam and Eve and destroy the relationship. Satan is best described as similar to that of a child molester who uses the treat of a candy to entice an unknowing victim into his clutches so he can destroy them. Now picture this, the molester comes to entice the woman away from God and her husband is standing right there. What is wrong with this picture in concern with what is about to happen? The man doesn't step up and protect his wife!

Of course now you must be asking me, 'How would you give advice on marriage even though you aren't even close to the event yourself.' True, I don't have first-hand experience in the practice of marriage. However, I have two things that I believe help qualify what I have to say. First and foremost, when the Holy Spirit speaks through one, then it is God who has the wisdom and authority, not me. Secondly, I've spent my whole life watching my dad and mother together. From obvious observation, I'm able to conclude common sense and godly disciplines.

Good godly men will step up to help their wife in this kind of situation. Now Adam did not have experience with the idea before, life was perfect. But if a man is walking that close to God, he should know a thing or two about stepping in to take care of business. Of course this was a different time, and they were both responsible for their choices; however, if it wasn't for the fact that Satan sought them out particularly for the commencing of this despicable act then the events afterward would have never taken place. With this idea though, a million what-if's can come to mind.

We can learn from this as men, though. If you are married, about to, or eventually will; take into account what happened in the garden. The primary focus of a man should be first on God, then on his wife. He should focus on the spiritual development of his wife and help her when she needs lifting up in various areas. The wonderful relationship of husband and wife is a unification under God to help keep each other accountable consistently, build each other up, and protect each other from temptation.

Men, love your wives. Help them become the godliest woman she can possibly become. Men, constantly yearn for and fight for your wife. Help her get through the struggles of trials and temptations. The man who is trusting in the Lord with all his heart will find the paths that He directs him on. These paths will include being a strong male figure for your wife. I say this as an outsider, you are blessed to have who you have. Constantly pursue her and God and you will find that the relationship that will continue on from that point will be greater then anything this world can throw at you,